the Tom commandments

“Dressing well is a kind of good manners, if you ask me. When you’re standing in a room, your effect is the same as a chair’s effect, or a sculpture’s. You’re part of someone’s view, you’re part of that world, and so you should dress well. I find it’s a show of respect to try to put on your best face and look as good as you can.”


I love him.



His immaculate appearance in a flawlessly tailored suit. His handsome chiselled jaw line enhanced by perfectly rugged designer stubble. His uncompromising, polarised views. His smouldering sex gaze and that wicked southern charm. Although naturally unrequited, my adoration blossoms with each approaching minute.

So with a bucket full of perfection, Tom Ford has sought it his duty to attest the making of a certified modern gentleman with regards to manners, demeanour, general comportment and, of course, appearance. His controlling criteria is ostentatiously laced with an air of charming pomposity which makes him all the more cursedly loveable but i know my sycophantic fawning will get me nowhere...so basically wear a suit, do some manual labour and mind your P's and Q's.

1. You should put on the best version of yourself when you go out in the world because that is a show of respect to the other people around you.

2. A gentleman today has to work. People who do not work are so boring and are usually bored. You have to be passionate, you have to be engaged and you have to be contributing to the world.

3. Manners are very important and actually knowing when things are appropriate. I always open doors for women, I carry their coat, I make sure that they're walking on the inside of the street. Stand up when people arrive at and leave the dinner table.

4. Don't be pretentious or racist or sexist or judge people by their background.

5. A man should never wear shorts in the city. Flip-flops and shorts in the city are never appropriate. Shorts should only be worn on the tennis court or on the beach.